Spell for Self-Love

Intention: To cast and tend a simple self-love spell.

Materials: Paper, writing utensil, “love” herbs of your choosing (rose, calendula, lavender, damiana, etc.), a mason jar (8-12 oz).

Process: 

  1. Discern a laser-focused intention for what you want. Do you want to feel more compassion toward yourself in moments where you need rest? Do you wish to forgive yourself for something? Set the intention and name your proof. How will you know this spell has worked? What evidence would you require to trust this spell yielded the desired effect?

  2. With your materials close, cast a circle. You might use this method or another that’s in your practice:

    1. Face the North. Call your loving ancestors of the north, past and future, to come closer to your circle and witness you. To the north, to my healer ancestors, to the sacred energies of the Earth, I say welcome.

    2. Face the East. Call your loving ancestors of the east, past and future, to come closer to your circle and witness you. To the east, to my healer ancestors, to the sacred energies of the Air, I say welcome.

    3. Face the South. Call your loving ancestors of the south, past and future, to come closer to your circle and witness you. To the south, to my healer ancestors, to the sacred energies of the Fire, I say welcome.

    4. Face the West. Call your loving ancestors of the west, past and future, to come closer to your circle and witness you. To the west, to my healer ancestors, to the sacred energies of the waters, I say welcome.

  3. Write it real now. Write the most intense love letter to yourself you have ever written to anyone. You may use the prompts I offer here or create your own:

    1. Dear (what you would like to be called),

    2. It’s taken me so long to tell you this, but here I am saying…

    3. What stuns me about you every day is…

    4. How wonderful, that you are able to…

    5. Always remember how exquisite it is to…

    6. I thank you for…

    7. I love you for…

    8. I am so intensely grateful for…

    9. I vow to show you…

    10. With the deepest love, (signature)

  4. Read your letter aloud now. As you read, notice how your body feels. Move in ways that feel expansive and not constrictive. Make room for the words you have written to take root in the body. When you feel ready, fold the letter TOWARD YOU, anoint it with your herbs, place it in your jar and seal it.

  5. Open the circle by offering gratitude to the ancestors and elements from West, to South, to East, to North.

  6. Place your hands on the ground. Breathe from low in the belly. Place your jar on your altar then try to go outside and “get some wind on your face” for as long as you were in your circle. Reward yourself. Offer yourself a gift.

  7. Let it be.

Fibonacci Sequence Addition: Let the day you wrote the letter and sealed the jar be Day 1. For nine days, offer yourself something like a rose petal, a stone, or a drop of water. The deposits go AROUND the jar like a spiral (not in the jar).

Day 1: After the spell is cast, after the jar is on your altar, add 1 deposit.

Day 2: Add 1

Day 3: Add 2

Day 4: Add 3

Day 5: Add 5

Day 6: Add 8

Day 7: Add 13

Day 8: Add 21

Day 9: Add 33

Lynae Of-Howl